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如果你也是瓶子，看看这是不是就是最真实的你

在阿声的Space里看到的，给她发去短信：“亲爱的，准得我想哭！”呵呵~~~

你是瓶子吗？是的话请看看。如果你身边有朋友是瓶子，也请认真看看。如果你爱的人是瓶子，更请用心仔细看看。

 

天秤座
      代表人物：《银魂》坂田银时
       身为天秤,出生在秋天的天秤,忧郁是与生俱来的—–尽管人前你见不到一个愁眉苦脸的天秤,甚至很多人认为天秤是一个大大咧咧的粗线条.天秤太善于伪装,或者说,不愿意让不了解的自己的人过多地知道自己的心情.
      在爱中,尤其如此.天秤的爱永远像是暗恋:有好感的时候,听到对方的名字，看到对方的身影,都会有一种不一样的感觉,但是自己会很克制不表现出来.即使有机会在一起,在众人当中,天秤跟谁都谈笑自如，亲切有加,惟独对自己在意的那个人,远远的,只用余光感受他的存在.他的一个表情,一句话,都在天秤心里引起阵阵涟漪.这样做的结果,往往是求近而得远.但是没有办法,天秤就是这样无法克服自己的本能.面对喜欢的人,会莫名地自卑羞怯.其实天秤是很善于和异性相处的,从小到大,也不缺乏哥们似的朋友.但是,对自己喜欢的那个人,她做不到那样洒脱.哪怕只是主动地打个招呼,也会紧张对方会不会看透自己的心思.天秤期待爱,但又恐惧爱的力量会将自己拖入万劫不复的深渊.
      即使两个人最终相爱了,天秤依然表现得冷静有余,热情不足.她会在任何时刻想到你,天气的变化，随便遇到的什么人或者事,念头一闪就转到你的身上去.她会在夜晚想着你的好或者不好,高兴或者难过地默默流泪.她会设身处地为你想很多很多,甚至想得太周到连你自己都想不到的周到.她会为你的某个失误找各种各样的借口,在质问你之前已经原谅了你,但是还是要你一个解释,一个简单的合理或者不合理的解释就轻易能让她释怀.她会为要不要给你打电话或者发短信犹豫很久,生怕打扰到你或者令你不方便不耐烦.她会想象出无数个美好的相处场景,沉浸其中不能自拔.
     但这一切,她不会让你知道.天秤并不缺少爱的能量,但缺少爱的勇气.或者说,如果有什么是天秤不能为你做的事情的话,那就是放弃自尊.自尊是天秤的最后一块堡垒,生死共存.天秤看上去开朗,其实细腻而心重.她一生都在期待真正懂她的感情的那个人.你来了,她有多么激动;可是,她又不敢相信那个人真的就是你.她等得太久太苦,以至于都绝望了.所以当那个人出现的时候,她反而慌乱失措了.她不知道如何在一个热烈的爱人与优雅的女人之间做出选择,你更喜欢哪一个呢?她不断地问自己.一方面,她也在不断地问自己:我这样做会不会失去自我?他会喜欢这样的我吗?如果她不喜欢,我怎么样做回自己?

这样复杂而强烈的情绪,你不会真正体味得到.天秤掩饰得那么好,只会对你微笑,即使流泪,也是静静的,不会哭喊发作.如果有伤害,她会一个人反复回味,直到在痛的重复体验中失去痛的敏感,再原谅你,继续.她不大会谴责,不大会推卸责任,她永远把错先揽在自己一边.甚至归结为自己个性的缺陷.天秤在爱里的自卑使她不得不这样在黑暗里爱着.她怕你知道她的"不好",她自以为是的不好.也怕你为她而难过伤心,那样还不如她自己独自忍受.也许伤到最后,天秤发现自己无力再承受了,她会安静地走开.绝望与崩溃,也不会让你看到,哪怕她痛苦到极点,你看到的,仍然是一个平静的天秤;顶多,有些冷漠.那冷漠也未必是针对你,很可能，是针对爱的.
     天秤知道,最输不起的,就是感情.交付起来,是一点点,一滴滴,直至沦陷;破碎时,却是大厦倾颓,天昏地暗.她了解人性中的任何世俗与卑微的心理,她怕自己柔弱的爱情成为这些丑恶的猎物.—–这就是天秤,即使受伤,她依然会把过错归于人性的弱点,而不会,真正地去恨.你看到她淡淡地来,淡淡地去了,却不知道,她的心无声地碎裂成了什么样子.
     天秤的爱情就像在上演的一部电影，他们就在这出戏里，眼看着它从开始到结束。落幕并不可怕，秤子们在乎的是他们成就了一部电影。
     天秤不喜欢落入俗套中的爱情。与 天秤爱过的人，也许回头来看，都不知道该怎样去评价那个秤子。爱着的时候是淡淡的，离开的时候也是淡淡的，甚至，连分手的理由都不屑追问。假如一个秤子在你面前掉了一次泪，你决不会想到她在背后曾为你哭过无数回。
     天秤的爱情有些自闭。他们喜欢纠缠在回忆里，幻想里，那些破碎不堪的画面对他们来说就意味着完整。其实，做秤子的爱人真是轻松得很，你不用刻意去安排什么浪漫的场合，你什么都不用做。因为， 天秤都有一颗浪漫的心。只要心里有爱，再平凡再普通的事也被他们美化了。
     天秤的内心真的是很温柔。这种温柔绝不是娇柔做作的那种，而是有一颗明事理的心。 天秤懂得尊重别人，这并不是人云亦云，事实上，秤子没有那么多的好奇心去在乎每个人的想法，对自己不在乎的人，又何必较真呢？这是秤子做人的道。而对于自己爱的人，他们的一言一行秤子会拿来奉做“圣经”。
     天秤喜欢钻牛角尖，没错。一旦他们爱上一个人，就很难再去相信自己的直觉。他们会抓住对方的一句话，一个举动，然后暗地里穷分析，直到得出自己最确信的答案。当然，他们得出的结论也是相对客观的，秤子不会傻到蒙蔽自己。但，殊不知这天底下最难测的就是人心，而喜欢猜心的秤子往往是被自己弄得筋疲力尽的。
      爱情是一个人的事。 天秤肯定对这句话大有感触。爱上了，倒反而寂寞了，因为想把自己交给一个人去了解，可这个人懂吗？值得吗？面对着眼前这个若即若离，神秘又淡然的秤子，谁又会想到他们的内心正起着暗涌。而相反的，爱上秤子的人会在某一天突然却步了，想要放弃了。原因只有两点：一是感到缺乏安全感。摸不透秤子的想法，热度也不够，温温的。要知道这世上的俗人千千万，也许他们在认识你的第一天就想着跟你上床，而秤子期待的爱情是首先要建立在精神上的，美的，有幻想空间的。于是，分道扬镳。二是感到秤子的爱是种负担，因为秤子的爱里容不下一粒沙。其实，秤子最喜欢的是和自己过不去，但，人永远无法超越的却是自己。秤子的这个结老也打不开。
     天秤多有自虐倾向。他们天生就懂得“悲剧艺术”的魅力，他们的爱情里要是没有一点悲剧色彩，就好象是不完美的。矛盾吧？！虽然，秤子们追求的是幸福美满，但他们又喜欢作茧自缚。失恋的秤子，往往不会寻找什么好的途径来忘却，相反，他们会找出所有的情歌来听，让自己沉浸在其中无法自拔，直到自己都撑不下去为止。

也许，只有那种历经坎坷，途径九九八十一难最后才修得正果的爱情才是他们内心最最向往的。所以，要是没有一点“分量”的感情， 天秤有时就会“分心”。
     天秤就是这样的，爱到后来也不知道自己在爱什么，冷暖自知……
    很多人讨厌天秤，说天秤们难以捉摸，变化莫测，最会当和事老。其实只是他们不了解天秤，上帝的失误让天秤成为了最悲伤的星座，但是善良的天秤们却是单纯的让人觉得可爱。所以不要琢磨天秤，试着理解天秤你就会爱上她们。
    爱上天秤的人也不要困惑，我们是一群没有安全感的孩子，所以我们逃避，我们恐慌，如果你真的爱你的天秤，就把你所能给她的你最大的安全感都给她，最后你会发现爱上一个天秤是多么幸福！

铭记 ＆ 忘记（转）

今天无意间看见这样一篇心情随笔，很喜欢；有点激动，有点惆怅，忽然间很想念那些我在彼岸的朋友们。

 

铭记这一刻的一切所有和一无所有

忘记这一切的拧巴纠结和惶惑不安

把经过当成一切额外的赠与

 

如果一个人离开了你，感恩他毕竟还来过

如果一件事让你挫败，感恩它毕竟让你尝试过

如果一个愿望始终没有实现，感恩它毕竟让你激动过

 

感恩我曾经这样的一无所有，或许它将让未来一点点的收获变得那么值得惊喜

如果此刻是我人生最糟糕的时刻，我会铭记，许那么一天，我将认出它的珍贵

我和我的年三十

希望家人都可以象这棵绿油油的竹子一样身体健康，充满生气。

一开房门就看见王静妈妈挂在门口的吉祥牛，希望2009大家都能红红火火，鸿运当头

这幅字挂着很久了，希望自己能在2009，踏踏实实，勤奋努力，因为我相信天道酬勤！

满满收获的08年在彼此的祝福中马上过去

房间充满春天的嫩绿

天气万里无云，09 前程似锦

Sins of Tongue

The Lying Tongue

Proverbs 25:18 says, "A man that beareth false witness against his neighbour is a maul, and a sword, and a sharp arrow." So a lying tongue is a misuse of a deadly weapon. It can be used to harm others near at hand (a maul), a few feet away (a sword), or a great distance away (an arrow). Satan is the father of lies (John 8:44), and God said that he hates a lying tongue (Pro. 6:17). All liars will have their part in the lake of fire, according to Revelation 21:8.

The Flattering Tongue

Flattery is also a sin of the tongue. The Bible speaks of flattery as a characteristic of the wicked, not the righteous: "For there is no faithfulness in their mouth; their inward part is very wickedness; their throat is an open sepulchre; they flatter with their tongue." (Psalm 5:9) Imagine the improvements which could be made in our nation if voters elected leaders on the basis of the RECORD rather than on the basis of the flattering speeches! Flattery is just a form of lying, and it has no place in the life of a Christian.

The Proud Tongue

The Bible also speaks of the proud tongue. Psalm 12:3-4 says, "The LORD shall cut off all flattering lips, and the tongue that speaketh proud things: Who have said, With our tongue will we prevail; our lips are our own: who is lord over us?" The most annoying Christians in the world are those with proud tongues because a proud tongue usually comes with two closed ears! Proud- tongued Christians are generally so full of themselves that they learn very little from anyone else. A proud-tongued Christian will talk much of his knowledge and service, but very little about the Lord.

In a church, a proud-tongued Christian will make all sorts of suggestions about how the church should function, yet his suggestions, if received, will place burdens on everyone but himself. A proud- tongued Christian is hard to teach or reason with because he thinks he knows everything.

Friend, God hates a proud tongue. Allow the Holy Spirit to use your tongue in the way of humility and kindness because pride will only quench God’s Spirit and damage your testimony.

The Overused Tongue

Some people sin by simply overusing their tongue. Ecclesiastes 5:3 says that "a fool’s voice is known by multitude of words." People think they appear smart by much talking, but the Bible states just the opposite. Ecclesiastes 5:2 says, "Be not rash with thy mouth, and let not thine heart be hasty to utter any thing before God: for God is in heaven, and thou upon earth: therefore let thy words be few." God doesn’t like a blabber mouth. You say, "Well, that’s just the way I am!" Then REPENT! Confess your sin and repent. Stop justifying your wickedness and ask God to help you repent.

The Swift Tongue

Some people are guilty of speaking too swiftly when they really need to wait before saying anything. God’s word says the following in Proverbs 18:13: "He that answereth a matter before he heareth it, it is folly and shame unto him." How many times have you had to "eat" your words because you spoke too swiftly? James 1:19 warns us to be swift to HEAR and SLOW to speak. Why do you suppose God gave us two ears but only one mouth?

The Backbiting Tongue

Proverbs 25:23 and Romans 1:30 make mention of a backbiting tongue. A backbiter is someone who uses their tongue against you when you aren’t present, yet they will not face you with their charges when you are present. This is a cowardly backbiter who would rather stir up problems than solve problems.

A backbiter would much rather talk ABOUT the preacher than talk TO the preacher. A backbiter would much rather talk ABOUT some weak Christian in the church than offer some words of encouragement TO them. A backbiter is of no use to anyone, and no one has ever been strengthened or edified through backbiting. Beware of the backbiters, especially the ones who sow discord among brethren (Pro. 6:19)!

The Talebearing Tongue

Proverbs 18:8 says, "The words of a talebearer are as wounds, and they go down into the innermost parts of the belly." Leviticus 19:16 says, "Thou shalt not go up and down as a talebearer among thy people. . ." Every Christian has the duty to deny his own desires and seek to edify other Christians (Rom. 14:19; Philip. 2:3). Talebearing runs wholly contrary to Christian edification. Talebearing (carrying and telling tales) spreads all sorts of hurtful information around, and Satan uses such information to hinder and tear down God’s work. A victim of talebearing, according to Proverbs, is a "wounded" person. God forbid that a Christian should wound another Christian, but it does happen all the time! Some Christians live as though they think God has "called" them to bear tales on other Christians. Many "Christian" newsletters are dedicated to informing the body of Christ on the latest news about someone’s ministry or personal life. There are many nice words and phrases used to justify such conduct, but the Bible word is TALEBEARING.

The Cursing Tongue

Some people, Christians included, have a nasty habit of using their tongue for cursing. Romans 3:13-14 says, "Their throat is an open sepulchre; with their tongues they have used deceit; the poison of asps is under their lips: Whose mouth is full of cursing and bitterness." This passage deals strictly with unsaved people and their ungodly ways, yet there are a great many professing Christians who curse regularly. Friend, why would you want to identify yourself with someone whom God describes as being DEAD, DECEITFUL, and POISON?

"As he loved cursing, so let it come unto him: as he delighted not in blessing, so let it be far from him. As he clothed himself with cursing like as with his garment, so let it come into his bowels like water, and like oil into his bones."(Psalm 109:17-18) Many people curse because their life is miserable. They are unhappy so they make it known with their degenerate speech. This text says that God keeps them unhappy BECAUSE of their speech! God curses those who curse! Christian, don’t expect God’s blessings when your mouth is filled with cursing.

The Piercing Tongue

Another sinful tongue is the piercing tongue. Proverbs 12:18 speaks of this tongue by saying, "There is that speaketh like the piercings of a sword: but the tongue of the wise is health." Some people have a sharp piercing tongue which Satan uses to offend and insult others. The Bible commands Christians to have their speech dominated by GRACE (Col. 4:6), yet most churches have a few people who use their tongue like a sword to pierce their brethren in Christ.

It was Teddy Roosevelt who said, "Speak softly and carry a big stick," but the truth is that if you speak softly you won’t need a big stick! Titus 2:8 commands us to use sound speech which cannot be condemned. Friend, do you use graceful speech which cannot be evil spoken of, or do you possess a piercing tongue? Every Christian’s prayer should be, "Lord, make my words gracious and tender, for tomorrow I may have to eat them."

The Silent Tongue

A silent tongue is also a sinful tongue because we have been commanded to speak up and witness for the Lord Jesus Christ. In Acts 1:8, Jesus said, "But ye shall receive power, after that the Holy Ghost is come upon you: and ye shall be witnesses unto me both in Jerusalem, and in all Judaea, and in Samaria, and unto the uttermost part of the earth." We, as Christians, have an obligation to tell others about the saving grace of Jesus. To be silent about Christ is to sin against Christ. Jesus said, "Whosoever therefore shall be ashamed of me and of my words in this adulterous and sinful generation; of him also shall the Son of man be ashamed, when he cometh in the glory of his Father with the holy angels." (Mark 8:38) Christian friend, if you do not want to be ashamed of yourself when the Lord returns, then don’t be ashamed of Jesus today. Pray for opportunities to speak up for your Saviour. Don’t be found guilty of having a silent tongue.

"For in many things we offend all. If any man offend not in word, the same is a perfect man, and able also to bridle the whole body." (James 3:2) At begining of 2009, some unhappy things let me feel uncomfortable,

 

2008这一年。。。

很快2008年就要过去了，和中国比我的2008没有那么多绚烂起伏。。。

有感怀，有雀跃，有祝福。

还好开心多过于郁闷，温暖多过于孤单，色彩多过于灰白。

希望我的2009能有更多的精彩。。。期待。。。。

 

生日~~谢谢朋友们!!

今年的生日刚刚过去,四个蛋糕,四次唱起生日歌,无数的开心,千万的感慨和深深的感动.谢谢朋友们的祝福,帮忙.也许因为大家意识到今年很有可能是最后一次这么齐的聚在一起了.每个人都放开了疯狂,真诚的倾诉.谢谢LILY, 老王,RIPPLE,耿欣,张剑,YUMIKO,DARRELL,BRONWYN,刚刚回国的鑫,还有PHIL和其他CARE GROUP的朋友们,以及公司的同事们,虽然有些时候不开心,但是不可否认你们对我的帮助,让我在这一年多里很快的成长.你们的话我会记着,你们的祝福会永远放在心里好好珍藏.我爱你们!

Naya半岁啦！

今天是Naya宝贝满半岁的日子，现在已经快30kg了，呵呵，长得不是一般的快，

还记得当时把她抱回来才8个星期的样子，憨憨的，嘟嘟的，一路上嚎着跟着我回家，那么可爱，一天在家里踩翻无数次水盆，在每个角落撒了不下二三十泡尿，弄得我们对她又爱又恨，哭笑不得。后来，慢慢的学会“sit,hand,another hand,stay,go,drop…"，知道出门靠在我左边走路，知道过马路要坐下等汽车过去，知道没有敲饭盆就只能看不准吃；还有一些她自学成才的抓老鼠的本事，天天用口水给妹妹和老虎洗澡的本事。

希望以后的日子Naya都能健康快乐的成长，越来越聪明可爱。

妈妈会和你一起努力开心的渡过每一天。谢谢你给我带来的快乐和开心。

Fail 掉的考试

还有2天就要考CPA的2nd Paper了，还是一点看书的心情都没看， 死党Lily和我已经做好fail的200%的心理准备。对于CPA考试我们绝对是有动力，有目标，但是就没心思，没力气。

最近这3个月的时候真是过得忙忙碌碌，如火如荼。现在好似没有以前做学生时期的定力，书还没看完1行就郁闷，没看完2行就眼晕，看到第3行就瞌睡，真是百试不爽。

 勤奋努力的Mandy同学都不得不佩服我的学习功力和良好的心理状态。为了督促和帮助我学习，Mandy下个学期会和我报一样的units，这样就可以看完一个module就给我讲解 summary一遍，呵呵。。。贴心的好友，真是很感激她。

 

 

又和Lily侃了1个小时的电话，不用看了，直接去睡觉了。。。

懒懒的周末

由于王叔来了，上个周末我这个对车一窍不通的人也屁颠屁颠跟着去看了我人生中的头一次车展。对车不是很懂，但是我对车还是有一定的判定标准 1，外形设计，2，安全标准，3，舒适程度。车展上看得是眼花缭乱，就是可惜少了车模，不知道是不是这边的车站都没有车模，少了那么一点点养眼元素了。用随身带的相机卡了一些回来，以激励自己努力赚钱。